With so much of what we encounter in life, there is much more going on than meets the eye. It is just like in the Wizard of Oz, the man behind is curtain is not anything like the Great Oz. The man who seems to have everything he could ever want. The successful professional with the world by the tail, the beautiful and talented woman who gets all the attention, or how about that couple who seem to have the perfect relationship?
What we see is only the surface of what most people experience. They show a facade and only what they want others to see. Much more is going on behind closed doors and in their heads. Then we find ourselves comparing ourselves, our lives, and our relationships with them. In many cases it isn’t far from reality. It has nothing to do with the reality of their lives or what they are experiencing. Just as you only show the world what you want others to see about you (for the most part).
We make up stories about the people around us to fit what we believe about them. Our stories rarely match reality. This is harmful to us because our expectations about ourselves and our lives are based in on these unrealistic beliefs. We try to live up to something that is not real.
Just remember the Great Oz.