Medical Myth Buster: Faking It Will Help Keep Your Partner from Cheating
by Fernanda Beccaglia | 03/28/2012
Myth: Faking It Will Help Keep Your Partner from Cheating
Bust: Wrong. Although that didn’t stop women from trying this approach.
More than half (54 percent) of women surveyed admitted to faking an orgasm, and “women who thought their partners might cheat were more likely to be the ones doing the faking,” according to a 2011 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
You may fool him. After all, the study found that 85% of men report that their partner had an orgasm at the most recent sexual event, but that compared with 64% of women who reported having had an orgasm. Researchers said that the difference is too large to be accounted for by some of the men having had male partners at their most recent event. So simple math prevails. A couple of other truths from the study: Men are more likely to orgasm when sex includes vaginal intercourse, while women are more likely to orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts and when oral sex or vaginal intercourse is included
But back to the matter at hand. Faking it can blow up in your face if your partner finds out that you have been faking it all along. For many women, it isn’t easy to talk about it for fear of hurting her partner’s feelings, while some believe that faking it will keep their partners from straying. The truth is, if your relationship is not based on love, trust, communication and respect, you’ve got bigger problems than the fake. And if a man is prone to cheating, faking it won’t make much of a difference, if any.
From Jay Tow:
I suggest to my clients that honesty is the best way to insure a healthy relationship as well as a healthy sex life. People need to be less focused on achieving orgasm and more focused on enjoying their partner and getting pleasure on sexual encounters.