Change

One question I am asked on a pretty regular basis is whether it is possible to change things about ourselves. The answer is “Yes” we are capable of changing how we act, think, and feel. Much of what we do and think are the ways we learned to and these have become habits. The next question is normally is: How do I do that?

The first step is to identify what it is you want to change.  What behavior or way of acting causes you problems?  What way of thinking do you wish to change?  You need to start by increasing your awareness in order to start changing. You will also need to find out what you will replace those thoughts or behaviors.

The next step I call catch and correct.  Every time you catch yourself thinking or doing what you want to change, you correct your behavior or thinking to what you would rather it be.  This takes vigilance and persistence.  It takes time to break habits and establish new ones.  It will take time.

Some counselors make it seem so easy.  These are simple steps.  But changing isn’t so simple and easy.  Give yourself time and be gentle with yourself.  You can do it!!!!!