As much as would like our lives to be smooth and without problems, it isn’t the way life unfolds. It is not a matter of if we will have an issue or problems to deal with, but when. Having the ability to deal with and overcome adversity is an important part of having a rewarding and fulfilling life. For me it begins with accepting that life isn’t fair and that we have limited control over many aspects of our lives. When things are going smoothly we have the illusion that we have everything under control. It is not until a problem presents itself that we are hit the reality. There are many, many things beyond our awareness or control.
I hear many people say, “If it weren’t for bad luck I’d have no luck,” or “Why do bad things always happen to me.”, or “I must have done something very wrong because I am being punished.” None of this is true and the universe is not out to get you personally.
Don’t do things to avoid the feelings that come up with regard to the problem. Write about it. Talk to friends and family. Try to learn the lessons you can from the situation. The key is acceptance. You cannot change the past. You can only move forward.
You will find that you are much stronger than you think and can deal with a lot. We learn from the problems we face and the mistakes we have made. When we have not succeeded at something it does not make us a failure. There is a lot of truth to the saying that those things that don’t kill us make us stronger.